碎三观！女子被熊孩子摸屁股，亲妈不道歉反殴打女生！？(4)

I tend to think that the mother truly believed she was protecting her kid from any harm, thus fulfilling her duty as both mother and protector. This unreasonable behavior is worrisome, and I suspect there may be many other Chinese parents who’d do the same.

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我觉得这母亲可能认为她自己的言行完全没错，只是在履行母亲和保护者的职责，让她的儿子免受伤害。她这种不理智的行为让我忧心。我怀疑很多中国父母遇到当时的情况，可能也会像她这么做。 [好文分享：www.11jj.com]

Unreasonable doting can only backfire. Such bad parenting is not protecting the child, but poisoning his/her mind, which can lead to the dangerous belief that there will be no consequences whatsoever no matter how bad his/her behavior is. With such parenting during the crucial years of a child’s mental development, there is little hope for any sense of accountability or responsible behavior as the child grows into adulthood. 

不理智地溺爱孩子后患无穷。溺爱并不能保护自己的孩子，反而会毒害孩子的思想。长此以往，小孩会觉得无论他/她做了什么，犯了多大错，都不需承担后果。如果父母在小孩心智发育的关键几年溺爱孩子，那么这个孩子长大后几乎很难有责任心。

Therefore, education is urgently needed for good parenting. Parenthood preparedness education is still far from being sophisticated, even in materially affluent cities like Shanghai.  

因此，我认为中国社会目前迫切需要针对家长的教育。就算在经济最发达的中国城市比如上海，对于父母的亲子教育依旧非常缺乏。

China’s doting parenting problem often extends to grand-parenting, as many two-income families have to rely on the help of grandparents when it comes to taking care of their child. Therefore, education is most effective when all family adults take part, and in this process grandparents and parents together can have meaningful discussions that smooth out intricate family chemistry.

中国家长的溺爱教育不仅限于父母，还有祖父母。很多双职工夫妻工作繁忙，只能让自己爸妈来带小孩。只有全家都采用正确的育儿方法，这样家里的老人和夫妻才能良好沟通，缓和家庭的育儿分歧，让家庭的氛围更好。

原文: David Lee